“The days are coming,” declares the Lord, “when I will make a new covenant with the people of Israel and with the people of Judah. It will not be like the covenant I made with their ancestors when I took them by the hand to lead them out of Egypt, because they broke my covenant, though I was a husband to them,” declares the Lord. “This is the covenant I will make with the people of Israel after that time,” declares the Lord.
“I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people. No longer will they teach their neighbor, or say to one another, ‘Know the Lord,’ because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest,” declares the Lord. “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.” Jeremiah 31:31-34 (NIV)
Forgiveness is almost always a process for us. There is something in human nature that compels us to hang on to our hurt and resentment when someone else doesn’t keep up his or her end of a bargain with us. When people break their covenants with us or they simply don’t live up to the expectations we have for them, we tend to want to hang on to the offense.
Over time, and with the help of the Holy Spirit, we can come to a place of forgiving others, but forgiveness doesn’t come naturally for us. It is something we struggle with and have to work at doing.
Forgetting the offenses others commit against us is quite another level beyond just forgiving. We forget things we want to remember such as, “Where are my car keys?,” or, “What is that password?,” but we seldom forget the kid in fourth grade who stuck gum in our hair or upended us in the trash can.
God promises to forget our sins. Not just forgive them… but… still keep that incident in mind for future reference, but completely forget them. Wipe them away as if they had never happened.
For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far he removes our transgressions from us. Psalm 103:11-12 (NRSV)
If we confess our sins, he who is faithful and just will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 (NRSV)
Because God has forgiven us we have the ability- and the obligation- to forgive others. We might not be able to forget the way that God forgets our sins, but we can always rely on the Holy Spirit for what we need to surrender our hurt and our anger at others to God and forgive them, not because we are so fantastic, but because God has already forgiven us.
Put away from you all bitterness and wrath and anger and wrangling and slander, together with all malice, and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:31-32 (NRSV)